A softer rhythm for sustainable change — especially if you’ve ever stalled by Week 2.
TL;DR:
I needed a way to change that didn’t rely on willpower or shame.
This Six step rhythm became my anchor — and it can become yours too.
I have started so many changes with the best of intentions.
And I’ve abandoned just as many by Week 2.
Not because I didn’t care.
Not because I was lazy.
But because the way I approached change was wired for intensity — not sustainability.
For a long time, I thought transformation had to feel dramatic.
Big goals.
Hard resets.
Bold declarations.
But here’s what actually happened:
I’d burn out.
Fall short.
Lose trust in myself.
And each time, the voice in my head got a little louder:
“You never finish anything.”
“Why bother starting again?”
I needed something different.
Not a plan.
A pattern.
Not a sprint.
A rhythm.
How the Six Step Cycle Was Born
This cycle didn’t arrive with fanfare.
It emerged gradually — from trial, from error, and from a deep desire to grow without breaking myself in the process.
When I gave myself permission to experiment instead of perform.
When I stopped punishing myself for slipping.
When I realised clarity mattered more than control.
That’s when things began to shift.
Not all at once.
But in a way that felt real.
Doable.
Mine.
The Six Steps
Each step is a gentle checkpoint — not a demand.
You don’t have to follow them perfectly.
You just have to return to them kindly, again and again.
🌀 1. Spot Your Triggers
Notice what sets you off course — without judgement.
🧪 2. Experiment with Kindness
Try small shifts. Stay curious, not critical.
🧱 3. Shape New Habits
Build what works — slowly, intentionally.
🌿 4. Respond in the Moment
When you wobble, respond with care, not control.
🔁 5. Reset Without Retribution
You’re allowed to begin again — gently.
🌬 6. Exhale / Evolve
Let the process shape you. Let growth feel good.
Why Most Habit Changes Fail — And What Actually Works
The truth is, most of us aren’t failing at change.
We’re just trying to change in ways that don’t fit our real lives.
We rely on willpower, hype, or guilt.
We push too hard, expect too much, and then blame ourselves when it doesn’t stick.
But this cycle isn’t about willpower.
It’s about rhythm.
A kind of steady, flexible self-trust that lets you begin again — without shame.
That’s the shift that changed everything for me.
This Space Is For You If…
- You’ve ever self-sabotaged by Week 2
- You crave sustainable change but fear “starting again”
- You’re tired of approaches that feel too loud, too fast, too much
You’re not behind.
You’re just ready for a new rhythm.
✨ Your Next Step
If this rhythm feels like something you’re ready to explore, here are a few gentle options — all calm, free, and ready when you are:
🧭 Start with the Self-Discovery Tool
This printable worksheet helps you name what’s shifting — and why it matters.
It pairs perfectly with Step 1: Spot Your Triggers.
📄 Try the Six Step Cycle Snapshot
A one-page guide to help you gently test the full cycle — softly, simply, and at your own pace.
It’s a first step toward Ritual: 13 Weeks to Habit, launching soon.
✨ Coming soon: More gentle tools
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing more free resources — including the Curiosity Jump Start — to help you reconnect with your rhythm and build real momentum.
No pressure.
No rules.
Just small steps, starting now.
📄 Download the Self-Discovery Tool
🌀 Explore the Six Step Change Snapshot — your gentle rhythm for real progress
📸 Follow along on Instagram and Facebook
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