Self-Judgement

  • You Don’t Have to Prove You Meant It

    ByBernie

    Once a decision starts to feel like something you have to prove, the harder option can seem like the more committed one. Push through. Make the sacrifice. Choose the response that asks the most of you. But difficulty and usefulness are not the same thing. Sometimes the demanding choice will still be the right one; sometimes it won’t. The more useful question is whether what you’re doing still serves the reason the decision mattered in the first place. Read the full blog to explore what changes when commitment stops being something you have to demonstrate.

  • The £10,000 Coaching Course I Stopped Attending

    ByBernie

    In 2014, I spent around £10,000 on an elite coaching qualification. I wanted the skills, but if I’m being fair, I also liked what choosing the top version seemed to say about me. Then the programme changed, the commitment became harder to sustain and eventually I realised I didn’t actually want the qualification enough to keep going. Stopping should have been straightforward. It wasn’t. Because by then, finishing had started to mean more than completing the course. Read the full blog to explore why it can be so hard to stop something you once chose.